When my husband and I first decided to try for a baby I don’t think either of us expected it to happen so quickly. Actually my husband was rather upset I’d fallen so quickly! We were newly married and like teenagers bonking at every opportunity. Considering we had been together for six years prior to getting married this was not our normal ‘love life’! So when only six weeks after getting married we got the positive test result, he was rather disappointed that this new ‘love life’ was going to end!
So what goes through your mind/ If this positive result is one you have wanted and been waiting for then a feeling of joy over takes you. Very quickly followed by ‘oh my god’ I am going to be a parent. Strangely for me saying I’m going to have a baby was all lovely and light, but when I said ‘I’m going to have a child’ this meant a whole different thing. It meant that this baby was going to grow up and get bigger. Become a toddler, then a teenager, and then an adult! Then I was filled with fear. Am I going to be able to deal with a toddler constantly asking ‘why?’ Or a grumpy teenager and one you have to talk about ’safe sex’ to, arrgh then an adult someone who has their own mind, someone who may even decide they don’t like you very much. This frightened me.
Then I hit earth with a bump and though let’s just take this one step at a time.
With my second pregnancy just the dreaded fear of morning sickness overtook me. Because lets face it I’ve managed to keep a two year old alive and well so far!
True tales of my pregnancy including tears, fears and fun.
I have decided to write this blog after spending my time scouring the internet to find solace in others who are experiencing morning sickness. By this I don’t mean those that say ‘oh yes its terrible isn’t it I just spend my whole morning feeling… well, a bit travel sick!’ I mean those of us that get up and go to bed having spent the whole day heaving, retching and throwing up. Throwing up when you’re pretty sure your body is empty, so where could this stuff possibly be coming from? And making sounds that you didn’t know were humanly possible.
Sounds strange, but just the very thought that there are others suffering like me makes me feel better.
Welcome to Katy’s weird world and blunt blog of my pregnancy.
I have tried many of the remedies available some which haven’t worked at all and others that helped.
When I initially found out that I was pregnant my first thoughts where ‘oh no bring on the sickness’. This is my second pregnancy; my first pregnancy saw me though 16 weeks of sickness. During this pregnancy I was under the care of a midwife only, which I believe is called ‘midwife led care’. There was no GP involvement. But this time round I have been under the care of my GP as well as a midwife.
In my first pregnancy the only response I ever got from my mid wife was ‘you have just got to try and get on and eat as healthily as you can’. If this sounds familiar to you then get yourself down to your doctor. Because frankly when you feel so sick the smell of your own husband makes you want to run for the lavatory or whichever vessel* you reach first.
The thought of eating anything at all let alone healthily IS NOT USEFUL ADVICE! With this advice I continued to go to work (I’m a college lecturer) and be completely useless, often calling in sick and leaving others at work to pick up the pieces. I lived on arrow root biscuits (see list of remedies) and Lucozade. At four months pregnant I weighed one and a half stone less that I did at the beginning of my pregnancy. Don’t let this happen to you!
*This in my case was often my two year old sons ‘In the Night Garden’ potty, he wasn’t very impressed. Also when you’re two year old says ‘mummy sick’ and goes and tells his daddy ‘mummy sick daddy’ you know you have been sick a lot!
Having spent this pregnancy with less midwife care I have had no choice but to go to my GP for advice. He instantly signed me off work saying ‘ if you are being sick and are exhausted how could you possibly work?’ This happened when I was 7 weeks pregnant. I am currently 14 weeks pregnant, still signed off and after suffering a weekend of very violent vomiting my GP has put me on an anti sickness drug called Avomine. I will talk about this in my list of remedies.
My list of Remedies
Pregie Pop Drops and Queasy Drops- initially these sweets worked wonders. They gave me a quick sugar hit and the sharp flavours stopped the gross ‘something just died in my mouth’ feeling. However after just a few days of eating them the very sharpness that was great earlier, now made the feeling of immanent vomiting worse. They are also quite large sized sweets and just puting them in my mouth made me gag.
I would recommend that anybody with morning sickness tries them as they did help for a short time and they might just work for longer for you.
Aromatherapy- I also discovered these little wands filled with aromatherapy oils (obviously ones that are safe in pregnancy). They contain peppermint and ginger which are well known for helping nausea . The idea is that you rub the oils onto your wrists and take a deep inhale when feeling sick. Unfortunately one wiff of this made me heave, so that was a no go.
Travel Sickness Bands- these are cotton bands worn around your wrists. They have a plastic nobble in them which you place over a pressure point on your wrist. They help to reduce the feeling of nausea. Both a good friend of mine and my sister swore by them. Saying they didn’t get rid of the sick feeling entirely but they definitely reduced it. But you guessed it they didn’t work for me.
Ginger- from about 7 to 11 weeks I couldn’t go near a ginger nut biscuit or anything ginger. But after this time I did find a Ginger Nut biscuit with a hot sweet drink in the morning helped that early morning sick feeling.
Arrowroot Biscuits- if ginger is too strong for you try these biscuits instead. They pretty much taste like Rich Teas, but arrowroot also has anti nausea properties just like ginger.
Hypnotherapy- my sister purchased a hypnotherapy CD for me to listen to. As much as this sounds all hocus pocus and witch craft, be open minded. I found that listening to the CD gave me 20 minutes of time to relax properly. I also found that after listening to it that I felt hungry rather than sick. So seizing the opportunity I would have something to eat.
Eating- as I have already said, I know that the very thought of food when you are feeling so awful is just not appealing. But if you can muster the power to eat anything, then do. It really does help. At the end of the day what’s the worst that’s going to happen. You’re gonna be sick. Well what’s new?
Sleeping- in the wild and busy lifestyles we have today getting extra sleep is almost impossible, especially when you have another child to look after. But if you are fortunate enough to be able to take time in the day for a nap or just a moment of doing nothing and staying still. Do it. If you are at work and are usually someone that sits at your desk with a sandwich and a coffee, don’t do it. Just bugger off somewhere and sit quietly, don’t talk to anyone, or even smile (you can if you want to), just rest. If your toddler has a mid day sleep go to bed with them. I often made the mistake of trying to go to sleep on the sofa. I found this impossible, you need to be comfortable and the best place for this is bed.
Family and close friends can be a god send, if they offer to help, even if you don’t think it’s a genuine offer, take them up on it! I couldn’t have survived this pregnancy without the help of my mum and my husband.
Luckily my husband is very helpful and doesn’t expect to come home to a tidy house with dinner ready when he gets in from work. If your husband thinks this is going to happen then you need to give him a reality check. Be selfish and tell him your job is to look after someone else at the moment. Namely yourself, because no matter how much you suffer, your baby wont. They take everything they need from you and actually it’s you that’s suffers.
Anti sickness tablets- at 14 weeks pregnant I took myself back to the doctors after suffering a weekend of violent vomiting keeping nothing I ate or drank down. This was very upsetting for me as I had spent the week previous without feeling too sick and had no vomiting. The doctor prescribed me a drug called Avomine, it is an anti-histamine used to combat travel sickness and vertigo. It is also the first line in medical intervention for expectant mums suffering with morning sickness.
I had all the worries you would expect ‘should I be taking this while pregnant? Is it going to hurt the baby? ‘ But I’m confident that my doctor wouldn’t prescribe anything harmful. After some internet research, looking at forums and so on, I found that there were many women that had been prescribed Avomine to help with their sickness.
This is only my first day of taking Avomine, I have been advised to take one every night. This is mainly because the tablets cause drowsiness, so taking them at night reduces the effect as you’re going to sleep any way. So I took it last night and today I haven’t felt sick at all, I’m very tired but not sick. WONDERFUL! Let’s hope it stays that way.
What I would like to know is… why wasn’t I given this in my last pregnancy!